Are you seeing behavioral signs of a cheating spouse, or do you suspect that your significant other is cheating but have no actual proof? What will it take to catch your cheating partner? This is a predicament that far too many people find themselves in. Even though studies from the U.S. General Social Survey have shown that men are more likely to cheat than women, the truth remains that monogamy is not for everyone.
“Am I being cheated on?”
Affairs may start online or offline. However, due to the increased popularity of dating apps, technology has made it much easier to cheat. It’s enough to type app-hiding applications or app blocker into Google or other search engines, and a world of possibilities will open up to you.
Even if the affair starts offline, technology plays an important role for the unfaithful spouse or partner because it provides easy ways to communicate. People involved in extramarital affairs need various fake profiles on Facebook or other social media platforms, social media apps, and the likes to make sure they keep in touch with their new love interest while keeping everything hidden from their current partner. This has led to the launch of sites and apps created with the sole purpose of helping cheaters keep their affairs hidden.
But thankfully, technology is a two-sided coin, and its advances are also helping people catch their unfaithful partner or wayward spouse. Going through your partner’s outgoing calls or checking their incoming calls, private messages, cell phone records, photo gallery, email accounts, online activities, and social media accounts are a few things you can do to gather evidence. Yet, doing this may be risky since you may be crossing the thin line between what is legal or not in terms of privacy.
Hidden cameras have helped husbands and wives catch their spouses for decades. Today, there are many unique versions that make affairs even easier to uncover.
One cool option? A camera hidden behind a smoke detector! Even though these gadgets are a bit expensive, they offer in-house motion sensor surveillance that is recorded on an internal DVR and can be watched later.
If you think your partner is having an affair outside of the home, or you already know for sure but want to catch your spouse cheating, a voice-activated recorder in the form of a key fob might be a good choice. Although it looks like any old key fob, this device has a recorder that can pick up sounds and record conversations.
Your spouse’s phone can also be a great source of proof. But because cheaters can be slick about deleting incriminating evidence, and now they have access to some of the best-hidden cheating apps, sometimes it is extremely difficult to uncover what you need on their devices. Fortunately, there are tools available to help catch your cheating boyfriend or girlfriend using their own cell phone activity, regardless if they have Android phones or iPhones. Many of the apps used for this purpose come with subscription plans and some even provide a money-back guarantee.
Want to know how to catch a cheating spouse on an iPhone? Use the iRecovery stick sold by Paraben. It works by plugging the stick into your computer along with the iPhone to retrieve deleted photos, browser history, and text messages. Of course, this tool can be helpful only if you can get your hands on the mobile device.
Another great tool to use is Spyera– monitoring software for cell phones, tablets, and computers. Spyera has dubbed itself as the most powerful and undetectable monitoring software because it allows users to monitor devices remotely. With Spyera, you can see your partner’s phone call history, conduct browser history monitoring, and even send hidden messages as if they came from the phone. The great thing about this service is that it comes with a money-back guarantee.
When Tech Won’t Do
Sometimes, even the best phone spying app or cell phone monitoring app doesn’t come up with proof of an affair. This is especially true if you plan to move forward with a divorce or use bulletproof evidence in a child custody case.
These are the situations when the best course of action is to hire a private investigator. Private investigators are licensed and follow a code of conduct to make sure the evidence they provide is admissible in a court of law. Furthermore, they have experience in the field of cheating partners and know all the common things cheaters do as well as their cheating habits.
Private investigators are well equipped with in-depth resources and tools to track everything in real-time. From the exact location of your partner at any given moment to social media activity and app-hiding applications, they know it all, and nothing can go unnoticed. Of course, only if the private investigator is experienced and licensed! If you choose to go with a P.I. instead of going at it alone, make sure you take the time to look for the qualities of a good private investigator and hire someone both experienced and qualified.
Consider your options when starting your journey to catch your cheating spouse. You know your spouse’s habits, so you can help the P.I. come up with the best tactics or tools for the highest level of success.
What exactly does a Private Investigator do?
Not everybody knows what a P.I. does. And that’s good. If everybody knew what they did, they probably wouldn’t be nearly as effective as they are. It’s the job of a P.I. to get you an answer that you can trust. It’s hard to know exactly what to look for when you’re investigating a potentially cheating wife or husband.
One of the reasons why it is a good idea to work with a P.I. is because they can provide accurate real-time location tracking, unveil hidden photos from different devices, provide browser monitoring and device tracking, and many other services meant to catch a cheating partner. Most P.I.’s have been in either law enforcement or similar fields their entire lives. They know what to look for, and many can provide specialized services.
It’s unbelievably easy to jump to conclusions when looking into something of this magnitude by yourself. This brings us to another great reason to hire a Private Investigator. People who have no emotional attachment to the case or situation will pay attention to the most common signs of cheating and provide professional answers, especially if they have a specialized career in this field.
You’ve decided to go with a P.I. What now?
So you’ve decided that you’re going to go ahead and make the move to hiring a P.I., but where do you start? We’re going to lay out a more specific checklist in the next section, but for now, you should be looking into local private investigators.
It’s important to work with a P.I. firm that has a good rapport with you. What exactly does that mean? Well, there are a couple of things to look for when you have your free first consultation.
Once you meet the P.I., make sure that you have all relevant documents necessary and be prepared to summarize your needs. You will want to have pictures of the person you’d like to have the surveillance conducted on and other details such as the make and model of the car they drive, their usual social circles, and the addresses of local hangouts and friends’ houses. Most P.I. firms will also ask you about a 24-hour scenario to get an idea of their day-to-day life.
If you forget anything or leave anything out, don’t worry. The initial consultation allows you to get a feel for the kind of services you’ll be provided, as well as a formal introduction between you and the P.I. The P.I. will also go over and walk through their processes with you, as well as tell you what he needs to do to complete the job correctly.
What to look for in your Infidelity Private Investigator?
Dealing with a cheating spouse can be stressful and overwhelming. So as with any service you want to hire somebody for, you want to make sure that you’re hiring someone knowledgeable and experienced to get the best results. Here are some basic things to look for when you talk to your P.I. at your free consultation.
Are they experienced investigators?
Have they established themselves and their career in the Private Investigation field? What is their educational background like? These are all questions that you should be asking yourself to make sure you’re hiring a professional. Private investigators with an extensive background in law enforcement and private investigation will be much more experienced than someone who is just starting or doesn’t have relevant experience in the field.
You should never be afraid to ask your P.I. questions. An excellent example of a question you can ask would be, “How many cases have you dealt with that were similar to mine?”, “How long have you been practicing Private Investigation?”, “Have you ever performed infidelity surveillance?” or be blunt, “Do you know how to catch a cheating spouse? ” P.I.s will be more than willing to answer any question within reason to help set your mind at ease.
Are they licensed?
It’s not very hard to give yourself the title of Infidelity Private Investigator. A few states require little to no experience to provide yourself with the title. To figure out your state requirements, type “(STATE NAME) private investigator license requirements” on your search engine of preference, and it should show the results and a number for you to call if you have further questions. You should also contact your state’s Department of Consumer Affairs to ensure that the firm you plan on using is licensed in your state.
And finally, do they display good character?
Do they seem to care about your situation? What is their opinion on confidentiality? Private investigators aren’t held to an attorney-client confidentiality agreement, but a good P.I. would never disclose their client’s name.
It’s important to take note of how your P.I. presents itself at the consultation. You’re entrusting a lot to a professional to get the job done efficiently and correctly. Make sure they’re putting your needs first, not the money. The process will be much smoother if both the P.I. and yourself have a good bond.
Personal Investigators know the emotional stress that you’re going through in times like this. They’re a very effective way of obtaining answers to questions that can sometimes be too heartbreaking to ask yourself. They know your pain and will do everything in their power to get you the answers you deserve.
Post Update: Article was updated on September 28th, 2022, originally published on January 1st, 2018. It has been completely revamped and updated for accuracy and comprehensiveness.