Are you seeing behavioral signs of a cheating spouse, or do you have a suspicion that your significant other is cheating but have no actual proof? What will it take to catch your cheating partner? This is a predicament that far too many men and women find themselves in. Even though studies from the U.S. General Social Survey have shown that men are more likely to cheat than women, this may not happen in all cases.
“Am I being cheated on?”
Affairs may start online or offline, but the fact that there is more access to the internet and that dating apps are gaining popularity, technology has made it much easier to cheat.
Even if the affair starts offline, there is often a tech-based aspect as cheaters need private ways to communicate. This has led to sites and apps being created with the sole purpose of helping cheaters keep their affairs hidden.
But thankfully, technology is a two-sided coin, and its advances are also helping partners catch their wayward spouses. Going over your partner’s phone and checking their incoming calls, private messages, cell phone records, photo gallery, online activities, and social media accounts are a few things you can do to gather evidence. Yet, doing this may be risky since you may be crossing the thin line between what is legal or not in terms of privacy.
Hidden cameras have helped husbands and wives catch their spouses for decades. Today, there are many unique versions that make affairs even easier to uncover.
One cool option? A camera is hidden by a smoke detector. Though these gadgets are a bit expensive, they offer in-house motion sensor surveillance that is recorded on an internal DVR and can be watched later.
If you think your spouse is having an affair outside of the home, a voice-activated recorder in the form of a key fob might be a good choice. Although it looks like any old key fob, this device has a recorder that can pick up sounds and record conversations.
Your spouse’s phone can also be a great source of proof. But because cheaters can be slick about deleting incriminating evidence, some find it hard to discover evidence on their devices. There are tools available to help catch your cheating spouse on their cell phones.
Curious how to catch a cheating spouse on an iPhone? A great tool to use is the iRecovery stick sold by Paraben. It works by plugging the stick into your computer along with the iPhone and retrieve deleted photos, browser history, and text messages. Of course, this only works if you can get your hands on the mobile device.
Another great tool to use is Spyera– monitoring software for cell phones, tablets, and computers. Spyera has dubbed itself as the most powerful and undetectable monitoring software because it allows users to monitor devices remotely. With Spyera, you can see their phone call history, track browsing history, and even send hidden messages as if they came from the phone. The great thing about this service is that it comes with a money-back guarantee.
When Tech Won’t Do
There are times that even the best apps don’t provide solid proof of an affair. This is especially true if you plan to move forward with a divorce or use bulletproof evidence in a child custody case.
In these cases, to catch your cheating spouse, it might be best to hire a private investigator. Private investigators are licensed and follow a code of conduct, knowing what is legal and not. They are usually well equipped with even more in-depth resources and tools. Of course, it’s important not to hire just anybody! If you choose to go with a P.I. instead of going at it alone, make sure you take the time to look for the qualities of a good private investigator and hire someone both experienced and qualified.
Consider your options when starting your journey to catch your cheating spouse. You know your spouse’s habits and will have a good idea of which tactic or tool will give the highest level of success.
What exactly does a Private Investigator do?
Not everybody knows what a P.I. does. And that’s good. If everybody knew what they did, they probably wouldn’t be nearly as effective as they are. It’s the job of a P.I. to get you an answer that you can trust. It’s hard to know exactly what to look for when you’re investigating a potentially cheating spouse. One of the best reasons to get a P.I. is because they do this for a living. Most P.I.’s have been in either law enforcement or similar fields their entire lives. They know what to look for.
It’s unbelievably easy to jump to conclusions when looking into something of this magnitude by yourself. This brings us to another great reason to hire a Private Investigator. People who have no emotional attachment to the case or situation will provide professional answers, especially if they have a specialized career in this field.
You’ve decided to go with a P.I. What now?
So you’ve decided that you’re going to go ahead and make the move to hiring a P.I., but where do you start? We’re going to layout a more specific checklist in the next section, but for now, you should be looking into local private investigators.
It’s important to work with a P.I. firm that has a good rapport with you. What exactly does that mean? Well, there are a couple of things to look for when you have your free first consultation.
Once you go to meet the P.I., make sure that you have all relevant documents necessary and be prepared to summarize your needs. You will want to have pictures of the person you’d like to have the surveillance conducted on and other things such as the make and model of the car they drive and the addresses of local hangouts and friends’ houses. Most P.I. firms will also ask you about a 24-hour scenario to get an idea of their day-to-day life.
If you forget anything or leave anything out, don’t worry. The consultation is to get a feel for the kind of services you’ll be provided, as well as a formal introduction between you and the P.I. The P.I. will also go over and walk through their processes with you, as well as tell you what he needs to do to complete the job correctly.
What to look for in your Infidelity Private Investigator?
Dealing with a cheating spouse can be stressful and overwhelming. So as with any service you want to hire somebody for, you want to make sure that you’re hiring someone with very high knowledge and expertise to get the best results. Below will be some basic things to look for when you talk to your P.I. at your free consultation.
Are they experienced investigators?
Have they established themselves and their career in the Private Investigation field? What is their educational background like? These are all questions that you should be asking yourself to make sure you’re hiring a professional. P.I.s with an extensive background in law enforcement and private investigation will be much more experienced than someone who is just starting or doesn’t have relevant experience in the field.
You should never be afraid to ask your P.I. questions. An excellent example of a question you can ask would be, “How many cases have you dealt with that were similar to mine?”, “How long have you been practicing Private Investigation?”, “Have you ever performed infidelity surveillance?” or be blunt, “Do you know how to catch a cheating spouse? ” P.I.s will be more than willing to answer any question within reason to help set your mind at ease.
Are they licensed?
It’s not very hard to give yourself the title of Infidelity Private Investigator. A few states require little to no experience to provide yourself with the title. To figure out your state requirements, type “(STATE NAME) private investigator license requirements” on your search engine of preference, and it should show the results and a number for you to call if you have further questions. You should also contact your state’s Department of Consumer Affairs to ensure that the firm you plan on using is licensed in your state.
And finally, do they display good character?
Do they seem to care about your situation? What is their opinion on confidentiality? Private investigators aren’t held to an attorney-client confidentiality agreement, but a good P.I. would never disclose their client’s name.
It’s important to take note of how your P.I. presents themselves at the consultation. You’re entrusting a lot into a professional to get the job done efficiently and correctly. Make sure that they’re putting your needs first, not the money. The process will be much smoother if both the P.I. and yourself have a good bond.
Personal Investigators know the emotional stress that you’re going through in times like this. They’re a very effective way of obtaining answers to questions that can sometimes be too heartbreaking to ask yourself. They know your pain and will do everything in their power to get you the answers you deserve.
This article was updated on August 30th, 2021 to reflect changes in technology and the private investigation field. The original article was written on January 1, 2018.
About Lawrence Ryan Investigations, Inc.
Lawrence Ryan Investigations has been in the private investigations field for over 35 years. To catch a cheating spouse requires a particular set of technical and soft skills to deliver results. Having an infidelity private investigator from LRI will provide you with the peace of mind to get the best possible support. We always recommend looking at a private investigator’s reviews before hiring them. There are high-quality investigators available, but you have to be cautious of a select group that calls themselves professional investigators but are far from it. Contact an LRI investigator for more information.